In addition to the full-time job of keeping the relationship going, keeping the sex going can be like a second job. Is it the cleaning horse stalls all summer kind, or the fun lifeguard at the pool kind? The work of it may feel like an interminable slog or it may not feel like work at all. But there is still some kind of work if you have either mismatched libidos due to desire issues, or bad timing due to life issues. One person wants to do it more than the other person, so the person who wants to do it more has to ask for it and initiate it, and that gets old, and then people get really pissy with each other. And when things stall, someone has to initiate.
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Email Great news, sex-havers! The state of California passed a groundbreaking bill this week that redefines the standard of sexual consent from "no means no" to "yes means yes. Did you do enough to prevent your rape? Did you do enough to confirm that she wanted it? Your present is not inadvertently raping someone!
So please, allow me to help you get laid the only way I know how: through words. Seaaaaaa Worrrlddddd. So please use this to your advantage. Bust out that vaguely Eastern European accent and watch the magic unfold. It will tantalize them.