Other times you're naturally attracted to women older or younger than yourself. Some people claim that age differences do not matter in relationships. But the truth is, it often does. When does age difference matter in lesbian relationships and what can you do to ensure your relationship will survive? How to Make Age Differences Work First, you need to be open to the fact that even though you love each other and have so much in common, one thing that is different about you is the amount of time you have lived.